Why You Fail Even After You Set Your Goals

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by Shawn Lim

It is common to see people getting excited, motivated and they set goals to achieve amazing results in their life. However, setting goal is just the first step in pursuing what you want in your life. It does not mean that after you set your goals, you definitely will achieve what you want.

It is too, common to see that people setting goals, but in the end, they still are not achieving their goals. Why is this so? First you will have to understand that success will not come automatically. It is not like after you set your goal, one day you wake up in the morning and you found yourself to be the CEO of a big company. It is not like one day you wake up and there is a BMW in your car porch. Success will not fall from the sky.

You will have to put in real effort and commitment to make your goals come true. It is the same in everything, without taking any action towards your goals; you will not achieve what you want. Below are some of the common reasons why people fail to achieve their goals…

Not Setting an Excited Goal
You know, you can set all kinds of goals in your life. However, if your goals are not excited enough, they will not drive you into taking action. Think about it, will you stay up late every night just to make an extra $100? I don't think you will. How about if we are talking about earning an extra $10,000? Will you stay up late because in the next month, you are going to make this amount of money? The answer is clear. So you see, your goals must be excited enough to drive you into action.

Not Having a Burning Reason
Many people know that they should set goals, but they never really actually know why they need to achieve their goals. Ask yourself, why do you need it so badly? If you want something so badly, you will somehow do everything it takes to achieve it. Often, it is the reason behind your goals that will drive you into action. Therefore, if your reasons are not strong enough, you will lose the drive very fast. That is why most people get excited in the beginning, but after a few days, they will lose the drive. I hope you know why you want to achieve your goals.

Not 100 Percent Committed to Their Goals
Yes, another big common reason, people are not 100 percent committed to their goals. I know you want to achieve your goals, I know you want to be a millionaire, I know you want to lose weight, and I know you want to be successful. But, have you ever asked yourself, are you 100 percent committed to your goals? If you are not 100 percent committed, you will get distracted by your surrounding, and you will procrastinate. Soon, you will lose the drive. Once you are 100 committed, you will stay out of your comfort zone, and do what it takes to achieve your goals.

As you can see now, the 3 above are the common reasons that people fail to achieve what they want even after they have set their goals. You have to understand, success is not an easy task and you are not going to achieve it in just 24 hours. It takes time and you need to pour in real effort. So stay focused in your goals and take massive action today.

This article is written by Shawn Lim, someone who pursue wealth and success. For more information, you can visit his blog here. There are a lot of quality and free resources that can supercharge you to your success, visit http://www.themillionairesecrets.net/ now.

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What is comparing?

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by Stacey T Pollock

Comparison is one of the biggest models that most people constantly utilize within their everyday lives. They utilize comparing to analyze the world around them and to find how they fit within the accepted normality. Comparing could be anything to what material things you have to physical differences or even to inner emotional expression. We all see other people different from ourselves and look at the links that make it this way.

Most often comparing leads to continuous study into why things are not the same. It most often also leads to conflicts in opinion and in differences, which can sometimes lead to growth in understanding and development. Comparing is an outside approach that makes us realize how different we are to another. We continually want to bring other people's lives up to our own standards of what we find the accepted normality. We compare differences in living, our bodies, our personalities, dreams, and beliefs, each having their own acceptance within our own daily lives. The most valued comparisons are to do with the physical world itself, mostly with how we handle ourselves within our own bodies.

Some might say to another if you do not believe certain things than you will have problems. Others value physical attributes as important and say that if you are not thin or beautiful then you should then go and have a face lift and workout. Each structure, however it is looked at, is a form of comparing. We want to make ourselves better purely from the fact that someone else is doing it a different way, that we as a society idolizes for its idealized perfection.

The only time that a person is not in comparison mode is when they are individualized, and have an inside approach. It is then that they do not seek to have acceptance off others. Most people who have an individualized approach tend to be more self independent, introverted, steady in their physical outward appearance, self loving and less conflicting towards others. They do not have to compete to get approval and instead just enjoy life on the ideals that they have set only for themselves, instead of pushing these concepts onto others.

Some might see these type of people at times, brash, isolated, self willed and perhaps a little too strong in their confidence. Usually the people judging the individualized person are the one's who value their lives on comparison models. They cannot accept the other person's individualized approach and difference in opinion, saying that they are not fitting into the norm and trying to separate themselves from the social group. They try to setup conflict but find it hard to reach the strong and confident introverted person because of their ability to not care about opinion.

Other differences between each model can be seen in how we approach daily lives. One might get up in the morning and just comb their hair and make sure they have appropriate clothes on for the day. The inward person does not have to always put so much work into outward projection and how they look, they might even find themselves beautiful in a more naturally appealing way, or inward way. They accept themselves in who they are and try to enjoy life with what they have already to work with as their contributing elements. Mostly these elements are to do with their ability to accept others for who they are and to enjoy moments of life without fear of conflict and being upset at another.

An outward person might on the other hand take their daily approach in another way. They might get up early before their day to prepare themselves to meet the standards of what other comparing people find perfect. This can for some take up to an hour or more. They then proceed in their day with looking at others all the time, adjusting themselves constantly, and thinking about everything they are doing and how they would be seen by another. They often do not like jokes or criticism and if they come across it during the day they will spend the rest of the day thinking about it and wondering what they can do to better themselves, or how they can get back at the other person for what they have said to them.

Some people might also at times depending on their situation in life go from one side to the other when it comes to inward and outward perceptions of life. We do at times have moments of thinking about the way we are perceived by others, and then other times where we do not care and just have fun. We each choose what is important to use on how to view the world around us. The strongest of these times, however, comes from inside us. These are the moments when we feel good and do not have conflict with others. When we can feel free and accepted in our daily lives for who we are and what we do.

Sometimes it can be very hard to be constantly working on bettering ourselves on comparison models. It is the times that we are confident and inward focusing that we have time to enjoy life for all the good things it has to offer. We do not have to worry about what others think and their expectations of our approach to life. In this inward world there is no conflict, only an inner peace, openness towards others, an ability to change and accept our situation as well as to accept others, and last of all, the ability to be ourselves, the unique creation that we are.

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Gratitude - an Easy Step to Implement in Having Power and Freedom With Money!

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by Melanie Fine, CPA

When I talk to people who are worried about their money situation or feel like it is hopeless, I ask them what are they grateful for? Sometimes they say "Nothing! Nothing in my life goes well. I am always struggling. I can't seem to makes ends meet!" Others say, "Hmmmm I don't know", while others say "I am grateful for my family, but everything else sucks." What is interesting is that being grateful every day for something can have a dramatic effect on your bottom line.

The book and DVD "The Secret", by Prime Time Productions in Australia, has become an international blowout success. It has been seen on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Live, The Ellen Degeneres Show and pretty much every morning news show out there. I am amazed by how I can't go into a bookstore or have a conversation anymore without someone mentioning "The Secret". (If you are one of the few people who haven't heard of it, you can check it out at there website). The principle premise in the "The Secret" is The Law of Attraction. Said simply, it is that 'like attracts like'. You can see this law in nature, in relationships, and in success. Have you ever wondered how successful people continually have success in their life? In my own life I see it with my friends who are positive, upbeat and successful. They attract positive, upbeat and successful people into their lives. They also attract success to their lives. People who are grateful for what they have, attract more of what they are grateful for.

Whether you believe it or not, one part of it rings true and makes a lot of sense to me. Being grateful is more fun and feels much better then not being grateful. So if we apply the Law of Attraction to your money and being grateful for it, it goes without saying that you will attract more of it into your life. If you focus on debt or chaos with your money you will attract more debt and chaos into your life. This is why people in debt never seem to get out of debt! If you are sick and complain and feel horrible all the time, guess what you have, sickness, complaints and horrible feelings! If you have love and happiness in your life and you focus on and are grateful for it, you will have more love and happiness coming your way! If you are thankful for what money and opportunities you have, it goes to say that more money and opportunities will come into your life. You will be surprised by what can happen.

So if you focus on what you are grateful for every day and celebrate every win you have, according to the Law of Attraction you will have more of what you are grateful for! This makes sense. Think about the last time you did something for someone and they were really grateful to you? Aren't you more inclined to give them more? Their gratitude reinforces your giving.

All this to say: focus on and appreciate what you have. Actually put a structure in place to be grateful every day. Each day write it down in a journal, talk to yourself about it in the shower, tell three people a day, or make it a practice at your family breakfast or dinner table. Be thankful for your family, your home, your money, your job, your friends, your resources. Try this on: be thankful for things you don't yet/even have, and soon your bottom line will increase as you attract it all into your life!

"None is more impoverished than the one who has no gratitude. Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy."-Fred De Witt Van Amburgh (born 1866).

**Melanie Fine, CPA, founded Transform Your Money after working with many people as a Certified Public Accountant. She realized that when people had issues with their money it wasn't just about the numbers. It was also about their lifestyle and choices. She shows people how easy and fun it can be to transform your money into whatever you want it to be. Check out the http://www.transformyourmoney.com website and sign up for our FREE newsletter and get your FREE gift!

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Latest researc into using visualization techniques for goal setting

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by Dimitri Papalexiou

Have you tried using visualization techniques for goal setting? These methods can help program your subconscious mind with information. Doing this activates your Reticular Activator (RE)- that's the bit of your brain that keeps an eye out for anything that will help with your goals.

The RE works for example if you're looking for a particular vehicle, you have focused on images of this vehicle & set a goal to find one. All of a sudden you see them everywhere, this is your RE doing it's job.

Traditional visualization methods ask you to focus on and imagine your goal/s in vivid detail, using all your senses and adding emotion. This works just fine, but….. new research shows that by doing this you are missing a big, fat, important piece of the image - the negative side (what you don't want!!!)

Instead of just viewing the positive outcome, you actually do a split-screen image in your mind, and you do it in third person. Here's how it works. On the left-hand side of the screen in your brain, you have a picture of what you don't want in your life, a very vivid picture. On the right-hand side of the screen you have a very vivid image of what you do want, and it's in third person.

Not only are you watching yourself, but there's also a group of people watching you. When you combine all of these elements into one picture, one image, one emotional situation, it becomes the most powerful, goal driving, behavioural-change tool there is.

In theory, one-half of the picture is a very clear picture of what you don't want and the other side is a very clear picture of what you do
want. The third component is that you have to kind of step back, remove yourself, and watch it like a movie. If you do that, you see other people in the image watching the whole thing.

You see the other people; there's an audience watching the whole thing, and the audience sees the person as being broke & poor (for example). The audience also sees the person as succeeding and being successful. That was the other component; when they added that, the successful outcomes (goals achieved) dramatically increased.

This enhanced version of visualization kicks butt! You're mind can reach goals two main ways (ask Tony Robbins), you can set a goal that moves you away from pain, like 'I want to be rich so that I wont be embarrassed anymore' - or, 'I want to rich so that I can buy my favourite sports car.'

One version moves you away from a perceived pain, the other towards a perceived pleasure. Using both in the one visualization exercise really boosts its power. It takes a little getting used to, but it truly is worth the effort!

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Latest researc into using visualization techniques for goal setting

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by Dimitri Papalexiou

Have you tried using visualization techniques for goal setting? These methods can help program your subconscious mind with information. Doing this activates your Reticular Activator (RE)- that's the bit of your brain that keeps an eye out for anything that will help with your goals.

The RE works for example if you're looking for a particular vehicle, you have focused on images of this vehicle & set a goal to find one. All of a sudden you see them everywhere, this is your RE doing it's job.

Traditional visualization methods ask you to focus on and imagine your goal/s in vivid detail, using all your senses and adding emotion. This works just fine, but….. new research shows that by doing this you are missing a big, fat, important piece of the image - the negative side (what you don't want!!!)

Instead of just viewing the positive outcome, you actually do a split-screen image in your mind, and you do it in third person. Here's how it works. On the left-hand side of the screen in your brain, you have a picture of what you don't want in your life, a very vivid picture. On the right-hand side of the screen you have a very vivid image of what you do want, and it's in third person.

Not only are you watching yourself, but there's also a group of people watching you. When you combine all of these elements into one picture, one image, one emotional situation, it becomes the most powerful, goal driving, behavioural-change tool there is.

In theory, one-half of the picture is a very clear picture of what you don't want and the other side is a very clear picture of what you do
want. The third component is that you have to kind of step back, remove yourself, and watch it like a movie. If you do that, you see other people in the image watching the whole thing.

You see the other people; there's an audience watching the whole thing, and the audience sees the person as being broke & poor (for example). The audience also sees the person as succeeding and being successful. That was the other component; when they added that, the successful outcomes (goals achieved) dramatically increased.

This enhanced version of visualization kicks butt! You're mind can reach goals two main ways (ask Tony Robbins), you can set a goal that moves you away from pain, like 'I want to be rich so that I wont be embarrassed anymore' - or, 'I want to rich so that I can buy my favourite sports car.'

One version moves you away from a perceived pain, the other towards a perceived pleasure. Using both in the one visualization exercise really boosts its power. It takes a little getting used to, but it truly is worth the effort!

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How To Pick Up Women - Closing

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by Jimmy Black

Are you at the point now where you can get a girl to talk to you and show interest, but are for some reason still having problems with closing? It's something that I'm passionate about figuring out. Recently I got the chance to speak to some people about it and they gladly told me how they go about closing.

'The' Stare

I'd say that most of you know what 'the' stare is. It's when you get to the point where you just know by the way she's looking at you, that she wants to start getting physical. I think it's not so much about reading the signs, but instead 'acting' on them.

Sit back and really think about all the times you've been in a situation like this. An opportunity to make first contact, but for some reason you just couldn't go through with it. You know the more I sit and ponder this whole pickup game I start to realize the difference between a really good PUA and the rest is they they actually act on the signs given to them.

My Example

Just last week I was at a party and there were a few cute girls there. I spent most of the night just joking around and negging the crap out of most of them, until suddenly one responded and hence an opportunity arose.

We made our way outside and I gotta tell ya I was getting IOI's left right and center, the shoulder punch, the look over her shoulder back at me and finally we were alone outside.

She decided to sit down on the staircase...by herself. I sat down next to her, I was reading the situation perfectly, and then...'THE' stare. I let myself think, "this is just too easy, maybe she DOESN'T want to kiss you" and before I knew it the moment had passed and we both got up and walked away.

You can see what I mean by not acting on the signs given to you. How important the IOI really is when it comes to the process of closing, but even more important is the action you take from those signs.

Looking back on it now I'm 100% sure the kiss close was there for the taking, I just happened to let my fear of rejection take hold. I'm not bitter, I never get bitter. I know this is all just a game and the more you take part in it, the faster your skills will develop. I'm just excited about how I will react next time with this type of knowledge.

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Where are Your Goals Taking You?

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by Dale Stuemke

When you come to a fork in the road, how do you know which one to take? The well-known quotation from Lewis Carroll's "Alice In Wonderland" addresses this question so well:

Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
The Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.
Alice: I don't much care where.
The Cat: Then it doesn't much matter which way you go.
Alice: …so long as I get somewhere.
The Cat: Oh, you're sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.

As we live our lives, we are constantly making decisions about which fork to take. Every day we make decisions that will impact where we are a year from now, five years from now, and further on in our lives. How do we make sure those decisions are taking us where we want to go?

This short little snippet from Alice in Wonderland addresses a couple of very basic, but important, steps in achieving goals. Two? Yes, knowing where we want to go and being motivated to get there. Without these, setting goals is useless.

Where Do I Want to Go?

Alice has reached a fork in the road. She has to decide which fork to take, so she asks her friend for help. We often reach these forks too. Someone goes off to college and has to choose a major course of study. Someone else has been working in one job, starting a career and decides it's the wrong career for him or her. Maybe someone loses a job and needs to find a new one. All of these raise the question, "Which way should I go from here?"

People often make these decisions based on reasons other than where they want to go. I remember a friend telling me about how, as a senior in high school, he was asked by his guidance counselor what he was going to study in college. He didn't know. The counselor said well you do really well in math, you would probably do well in electrical engineering. My friend asked if electrical engineers made good incomes, was told they do, and his career was chosen! (If you don't know where you want to go...)

Now my friend had a goal! Guess what? He did really well in his college work, graduated, and got a job at a major high tech company. As time went along, he wasn't satisfied because he could see that his income was limited by what his company would pay him. He couldn't do a lot to impact that, and he didn't really want to spend the rest of his life working in a cubicle! In other words, he had set a goal and achieved it, but it wasn't a goal that took him on a path he liked. He needed to rethink where he really wanted to go. Then he could set goals and follow plans that would take him down the path he wanted.

The good news is that we can make our own forks in the road if we want. He did and was very happy with the result!

Why Do I Want to Go There?

The cat told Alice that which fork to take depended on where she wanted to go. Her answer was that she didn't really care. In other words, she didn't know why she wanted to go one place or another, so long as she got somewhere.

I wonder how long Alice would be happy with the new direction she chose. Would she get bored with it? Would the hills get too steep and discourage her, making her want to go off on another path? Would she find the scenery to be too bland and unexciting and lose her interest?

These are the kinds of things that can happen if we aren't really motivated to reach the goal we have chosen. We really need to understand why we want to go there.

Remember my friend, the electrical engineer? He was fortunate. The course work in college was not so difficult that he got discouraged along the way. He said he was able to squeeze a 4-year program into five years, but he made it. Obviously the motivation the counselor gave him ("Yes, you can make a lot of money.") was enough to sustain him through those five years.

But, do you remember what it was like in college? You didn't have to make a fortune when you graduated for it to be "a lot of money"!

I think my friend's experience tells us something more about understanding our motivation. He reached his goal and was receiving the reward, but he found that it wasn't what he really wanted.

When we answer the question, "Why do I want to go there?" we need to have a clear, complete picture of what it will be like when we get there. Is it really something that will last? The more we understand what the "there" is, the more we can envision ourselves in it. Then we can make a better assessment of whether it's what we want...and why.

It's the "why" that's important. What is the vision? Does it motivate you? Good, then you've chosen the right fork in the road!

One Last Thing

Remember how Alice finished her answer? "I don't much care where, so long as I get somewhere."

And the cat replied "Oh, you're sure to do that, if only you walk long enough."

You are going to "walk" for the rest of your life. You will get somewhere eventually. But, it really does matter which fork you take. This reminds me of another short quote; I think it's a paraphrase of this little story about Alice and the cat.

"If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up someplace else!"

Choose your goals carefully, but do choose them. You're going to end up someplace, one way or another!

Dale Stuemke has learned that dreams and goals are achieved with a good plan, focused effort, good mentorship, and commitment. Humans are designed to be achievers. Visualizing the future and setting goals is uniquely human! Dale is still setting goals for his future. Receive Dale's FREE report and FREE vacation: 6 Letters to Launch Your Goals: CHANGE. Visit Launch Your Goals Blog.

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When the Memories Come Without Pain

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by elaine williams

My youngest son was eleven when his father died. For the longest time he would cling to me when we were parting company, giving hugs and more hugs. I know this was his way of working through the loss of his father and I knew that eventually this phase would pass. Many times he would talk about things he and his father and brothers had done and this too seemed to help him move through his grief. There were times he just didn't want to talk to me about anything, but usually this was rare. I remember picking up his wallet one day and inside he had some old driver's licenses that had belonged to his father. He also kept his father's old bright orange work shirts and wore those for the longest time. One of them said, "I survived the blizzard of 1993." This was particularly humorous since my son was born in 1992.

We would often talk about different funny things that had happened throughout the years. Like the time my husband and my kids were home and my husband drove the kid's 4x4 up onto our deck and the plastic lawn chairs were flying everywhere. He cautioned them "not to tell Mom," since he knew I'd probably not be too happy. A friend spilled the beans months after my husband was no longer with us and reminiscing about this event brought a laugh from all of us.

Another time we talked about was a day in late February, when it was bitter cold and ice and snow lay on the ground. My husband and kids and I went down the street to help two elderly neighbors. Their car was stuck on ice with them inside the vehicle. My husband had a stomach tube in place, which at times could be troublesome, but he started shoveling snow with the rest of us and helped dig out the neighbor's car. When the elderly lady was able to get out of her car, she exclaimed over him doing all that shoveling, since she knew he was ill. He just smiled at her and then we all laughed when she told him to come up to the house and she would give him a neck rub.

When my husband passed away three months later, that elderly lady passed away the next day. Her daughter reminded us of the day my husband shoveled out the car, and said that they were in heaven together and her mother was giving my husband neck rubs.

After my husband's memorial service, my sister-in-law went upstairs to the second floor of the funeral home to retrieve the urn with my husband's ashes, since he had been cremated. I still remember watching her come down the long steep stairs with the urn held carefully in her hands. About a month later my sister-in-law called me to tell me about a dream she had had. In the dream, she was coming once again down those stairs with the urn, and my husband was saying to her, "Don't drop me." We laughed so hard when she told this dream. It was exactly the smart-alecky thing my husband would have said.

When I look back on our life together, there are many memories that are told and retold, and to me it seems further evidence of healing for myself and my children. The memories are there and fondly told, with a smile and reminiscent grin, without the pain that was once associated thinking of a loved one no longer there. Elaine Williams ©2008

Elaine Williams is a writer across various genres, published in women's fiction, but also enjoys writing children's books, self-help and screenplays. She is a mother of three boys and when life saw her a widow at 47, she eventually picked herself up and wrote about her experience. The resulting book, A Journey Well Taken: Life After Loss will be available June 2008, http://www.ajourneywelltaken.com

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Leadership Training for New Managers: How to Go From Peer to Manager in 5 Easy Steps

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by Kevin Berchelmann

You've always thought about being in charge. You always wanted to be in the position to make necessary changes and do things smarter.

Now, you just got promoted to manager and have the opportunity you always wanted.

Now what?

Clearly, there's no simple "new manager's user manual for modern supervision."

Sure, there are lots of books, articles, seminars and consultants on leadership. But do they really understand what you're facing?

Do all of those glossy, $30 hardback wannabes really know how difficult it is to make this transition?

In working with corporate executives and managers for many years - big companies and small - I can tell you with all certainty that you'll face much of this same anxiety each time you take a step "up" the organizational food chain.

That's right, think about it: Your CEO, when promoted to Grand Poobah, faced many of the exact same issues you face today in making the transition.


So, what to do now?

Well first thing is to realize…

There Are Two HUGE Facts About Leadership That "They" Forgot to Tell You:

1. You aren't prepared for it. News flash - being a super-operator is not the same thing as being a supervisor. Doesn't matter if you were the best thing since sliced bread as a regular worker. Leading is different.

2. It isn't all that hard, and most importantly, it can be learned. That's right. Like riding a bike, swinging a golf club or shooting a gun leadership is learned skill.



To help with your thinking - and to give you a process with which to start, here are 5 steps for you to make your leadership transition successful and painless.

How to Go From Peer to Manager in 5 Simple Steps

1. Don't cheapen your role. Don't confuse the issue, by roaming around telling all your prior co-workers to "not worry" and that "you won't change."

Better, tell them you plan on taking your new role seriously, and that you'll need their help in making sure you do the right things. Remind them of all the ideas "we" had prior to the big move. Above all, this is the time for them to "meet" you as a manager, not simply a co-worker or friend.

2. Make boundaries. 'Friendly' is good, and the compassion you have and show now will shine through in your success as a new leader.

That friendliness, however, will need to be tempered, or balanced, with boundaries. You aren't the same "Mike" or "Wendy" that you were yesterday.

You have entirely different responsibilities. You will now be measured as a success or failure on how others do. You will now or in the foreseeable future, need to make some hard decisions.

That's why you'll need to maintain a degree of distance.

3. Get "out of the loop."Previously, you were in on regular gossip, discussions about management, and maybe even some venting and/or complaints about the company. That must stop completely now. Avoid the gossip. Stay clear of coffee pot gatherings and most after-work happy hours.


4. Ask. Shut up. Listen. It really is that simple. Don't you remember how often you and your friends would say things like, "if they would just ask us," or "we told them, they just didn't listen," or even the favorite, "I told you so…?"

Ask your prior co-workers what they do, specifically. Ask what you can do to make their job better (easier, faster, more productive).

Then, the hard part: shut up and listen.

Don't speak for a while. Give them the chance to talk. This is their first opportunity to address their "new" boss. Make it something memorable for them. Take notes. Don't commit unless you're sure of your authority. But certainly say "that sounds reasonable to me" if appropriate.

If you nail this down right, it's a skill that will prove invaluable to you as a leader in the future.

5. Leverage your relationships. Stop worrying about what someone is now going to think about you, or how you'll look to your prior co-workers now that you've 'got the washroom key.' Use those prior relationships to make success all around.

Go to prior friends and ask them do some of the things they may have proposed, or to be the 'point-person' because of their known skills in influencing co-workers and others. Maybe you can get them to remind you of some of the processes you both may have discussed earlier.

You don't need to entirely jettison those prior relationships. Put them to good use going forward.

I often remind managers (both new and experienced) that leadership - truly effective, successful leadership - is not necessarily difficult, though we sometimes make it that way. It's simple principles, common sense, and the ability to trust our learned instincts.

Leadership is a skill, and one that is as critical at this first juncture as it is for a Fortune 100 CEO. Yesterday, you may have talked about your boss. Today, they may be talking about you. Making the leap from co-worker to leader does not have to be difficult, but it absolutely must be a change from how you behaved before.

Simply decide you want to succeed, plot the appropriate course, and start taking those steps.

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Described as a Human Capital Expert by The Harvard Business Press, Kevin Berchelmann helps new managers at private equity, Fortune 500 and small to medium sized businesses become top leaders that deliver results. Now you can get access to his FREE "At C-Level," cutting edge newsletter at: http://www.triangleperformance.com/register and instantly receive this FREE SPECIAL REPORT: Survey of Senior Executives

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How to Effectively Promote Your Product

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by salesrank

One of the most frustrating things about writing a book can be the difficulty in getting it noticed. In today's market, even bestselling writers must do their own publicity or kiss some great potential revenue goodbye. With millions upon millions of other products out there, it is imperative to give your book every opportunity to be noticed. Here are a few quick tips on how to promote the sales of your title:

Learn from the Oldies…

First-timer? It may be worth while to have a look at tapes from the NSA Writers PEG meetings at the different conferences. While they might be relatively old, these tapes offer valuable, core information on book promoting. It would also be a good idea to look through some of the many books written about this subject.

John Kremer's book 1001 Ways to Market Your Books, is one such example.

Invest Time in Public Talks…

If you find that your book targets children, why not go to the source? It has been noted that schools are the best location to do a reading and give a talk. Firstly, you are guaranteed an audience and secondly, kids are awesome…they are always asking questions!

Get Creative...

Capitalize on people's love of a free gift, like Julie Ferguson did. She created a unique book promo device that was both useful and cost effective. She put a preview of her books, e or print, onto a floppy disc, slapped on an illustrated label (that she designed and printed herself using Avery diskette
labels) and simply gave the discs away.

The preview of each book contains:

•The print flyer first with the short blurb about the book and a short author's bio;
•The book's cover headed by an invitation to read the preview;
•Publication data page with the copyright statement;
•Table of contents;
•First couple of chapters;
•Ordering info.

This is just a guide - you can feel free to include what ever you think would be most appreciated by your target market. This idea is ideal for print and e-books and booklets.

Get a Good Publisher…

When selecting a publisher, make sure you find a publisher who can get good distribution. The release and the publicity of your book's campaign will occur simultaneously. It is important to have excellent distribution as your books' reviews could land you a spot on the radio (the most-used tool) and in mainstream print media.

Online Book Promotion…

Within the context of an Internet revolution, online promoting is probably the most powerful tool available to you personally. If you would like to reach a huge market, it may be a good idea to add your title to online articles as well as lists and guides on Amazon, or even blog about your book and make use of online press release services.

You could put yourself through the hassle of doing this manually, or you could subscribe to a service that does this automatically, for example RankTracer. This company will do some online promotion and track your book at the same time – giving you on-the-hour sales rank information, graphs, reports and actual sales estimates. This frees you up to do the offline promotional part – which is, after all, a lot more fun.

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Building Success Through Goal Setting

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by S McIntyre

How do you start your day? Do you have a set routine? Do you have a timeline of what you are to accomplish this day? Or are you overwhelmed by the tasks at hand and you don't know whether you're coming or going? If it's the latter, you need to pick yourself up and set some realistic goals for yourself. Are you motivated and committed to reaching these goals?

Okay! Let's begin.

It's important to set goals that are tailored made for you because only you can achieve them. Take small steps if you have to because you can always goal set for larger ones later, but also make it challenging because once you've reached it you will feel you have really climbed a mountain instead of a hill.

Make sure these goals are visible to you. Write it down on a notebook or large post-it note and put on your desk where you can clearly see it and where you can cross off the finished tasks. How long will it take for you to accomplish this task? Put a time value on it. This way you can also calculate on how much time you have to complete your other tasks or save them for another day. Staying focused and organized is the key!

Visualizing you have reached your goal not only keeps you on track, but keeps you motivated and it builds self-esteem and self-confidence that you are able to do this. It will also push you towards reaching your current goal and help you aim higher to achieve bigger goals. Some people find reading inspirational quotes or listening to motivational tapes really puts them in the mood to be extremely productive and it's a great way to start off your day!

Some people create daily goals to achieve in one particular day, some set them weekly and some set them monthly or longer. For the ones who set them weekly or longer, you must be able to track your own progress. It's easy to get sidetracked and lose motivation, but you have to stay focused in order to achieve success. Remind yourself why you have set these goals and why you want to achieve them.

Don't let fear and failure prevent you from setting goals because it will also prevent you from achieving success. Banish the negative thoughts because it's not productive. Think positively, move forward and strive to aim for higher success!

S McIntyre owns Work At Home Space http://www.workathomespace.com a free work at home resource focusing on telecommuting companies, daily telecommute job leads, articles, business resources and more. You can also visit her blog Healthy Perspectives http://healthyperspectives.blogspot.com featuring an array of health topics, nutrition, recipes and fitness for maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

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Building Success Through Goal Setting

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How do you start your day? Do you have a set routine? Do you have a timeline of what you are to accomplish this day? Or are you overwhelmed by the tasks at hand and you don't know whether you're coming or going? If it's the latter, you need to pick yourself up and set some realistic goals for yourself. Are you motivated and committed to reaching these goals?

Okay! Let's begin.

It's important to set goals that are tailored made for you because only you can achieve them. Take small steps if you have to because you can always goal set for larger ones later, but also make it challenging because once you've reached it you will feel you have really climbed a mountain instead of a hill.

Make sure these goals are visible to you. Write it down on a notebook or large post-it note and put on your desk where you can clearly see it and where you can cross off the finished tasks. How long will it take for you to accomplish this task? Put a time value on it. This way you can also calculate on how much time you have to complete your other tasks or save them for another day. Staying focused and organized is the key!

Visualizing you have reached your goal not only keeps you on track, but keeps you motivated and it builds self-esteem and self-confidence that you are able to do this. It will also push you towards reaching your current goal and help you aim higher to achieve bigger goals. Some people find reading inspirational quotes or listening to motivational tapes really puts them in the mood to be extremely productive and it's a great way to start off your day!

Some people create daily goals to achieve in one particular day, some set them weekly and some set them monthly or longer. For the ones who set them weekly or longer, you must be able to track your own progress. It's easy to get sidetracked and lose motivation, but you have to stay focused in order to achieve success. Remind yourself why you have set these goals and why you want to achieve them.

Don't let fear and failure prevent you from setting goals because it will also prevent you from achieving success. Banish the negative thoughts because it's not productive. Think positively, move forward and strive to aim for higher success!

S McIntyre owns Work At Home Space http://www.workathomespace.com a free work at home resource focusing on telecommuting companies, daily telecommute job leads, articles, business resources and more. You can also visit her blog Healthy Perspectives http://healthyperspectives.blogspot.com featuring an array of health topics, nutrition, recipes and fitness for maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

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How you can Help World Conditions with the Law of Attraction

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by Beth McCain

All through history, the world has experienced many changes, some good and some bad. Our current world today is so full of different perceptions and opinions that we are in a world of ever changing religion, politics, and culture, each one believing that they have the right answer and each one believing they have the only answer.

There is not just one answer to a question; there are many answers to a question that work just as well as the next. By being such a diverse world, we can benefit from listening to all the different perspectives and come up with something that could benefit the world in general. Is it possible for this to happen? I would like to think so but with so much contrast about so many different things the change would need to happen on a scale of mass consciousness.

So is there anything that we can do with the Law of Attraction to help the world condition being just one person? There are three answers to that question: Yes, yes, and yes.

Create a separate visualization for the world in general. What world would you like to see and be a part of? Maybe countries that help one another through catastrophes, help the hungry and the sick, and help the poverty stricken. When you visualize the world as a whole, make sure that you don't focus on the lack of what is happening. When focusing on the pain and desperation of catastrophe, you will most certainly begin to attract just that.

When you focus on what you would like the world to be (sending food for the people who have lost homes, medical supplies for the sick, and money to sponsor a poverty stricken village) and you visualize the joy and relief of the people who have been helped, then you will begin to see a difference from within your perspective.

As each one of us focuses on the joy and happiness of helping our fellow human beings through generosity and compassion we will in fact change the world. Think about how wonderful if you and your friends who practice the Law of Attraction got together and created a wonderful group visualization. The more you focus and see only the positive within the world, the more your own world and the whole world would benefit.

We can't ignore what is going on around us but we can begin to become non reactive to what we see with our eyes and change our perception from pity and fear to help and compassion. By giving focus to the solution of world hunger, war, illness we will be doing so much more for this physical world that we live in.

Donate money out of compassion to help mankind, but not from a space of feeling that you have to help because you have guilt or shame that this has happened to someone. Leave the guilt and shame behind and focus on the positive aspect of what your money will do for the people of the world who need it. And thank the Universe for the ability to be able to help.

Beth and Lee McCain are instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction to your life to attain whatever you desire. They have a great radio show on Youtube that is both entertaining as well as informative on the subject of the Law of Attraction. For more information about Beth and Lee products and services, please visit: Beth and Lee McCain Law of Attraction Web Site

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