Monday, March 31, 2008

Stand Up and Remember This Article

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by AJ Gentry

What can I say that hasn't already been said? Hummm...

How about this?

I can almost guarantee that hours from now, days from now you will still be thinking about this article. In fact every time you stand up you will remember this article.

It doesn't matter if you are at work and just getting up to go across the room or at home getting up out of your favorite chair, every time you stand up you will remember this article.

Why will you remember this article every time you stand up?

Because humans operate like biological computers, the programs that influence the meanings you get, feelings you develop and decisions you make from the motivations that course through you are open in the conscious and non-conscious to suggestive programming.

So whenever you stand up, you will most probably think of this article, an article that shared the secret to effective self-control and self-esteem. Go ahead, stand up and see if you think about the words in this article.

You WILL in just a few minutes if you didn't already.

Self-esteem is the strength of your belief in yourself. How strongly do you really believe in yourself? Oh, you might flaunt about in the public and spread your feathers for all to see, but how do you actually feel and look in private especially when you are tucked away behind closed doors where others cannot invade your space?

Does your self-esteem still soar? If not perhaps you need to reexamine the reality of how you view your Self. What is your personal opinion of the way you have lived out your Life so far?

Grade yourself on a scale of zero to a hundred. Be honest since others will not see the grade, only you. How did you score? Can you improve and do better than what you have in the past?

The secret is to keep that living opinion grade high and to have balance in the way you live and in your self-esteem in both your public and private living. Refine the person you are so that you can honestly accept and admit to yourself that you are a quality human being with a quality Life.

This is the truth that will set you mentally and emotionally free from the concerns of the world. As you stand up you will remember that you also NEED to Stand Up for Yourself and to take responsibility and accountability for the decisions you make and the results they create.

Self-control is the ability and inner strength to maintain self-esteem at a high level. As you Stand Up the process helps you to remember that you ARE Standing Up for Yourself and proclaiming your independence and freedom from the things that people allow to influence and control them in the daily living experience.

Stand Up NOW. Do you remember this article and the words? Stand Up for Yourself and take control of your Life and living process because if you don't others will. Other people try to influence you each day and part of that process is overcoming your self-esteem and self-control. When you are not consciously in control you can be influenced and redirected.

Remember when you Stand Up you WILL remember this article and these words.

Focus on establishing your place in society and becoming the person you envision yourself to be not some shell of a person randomly accepting whatever comes your way. Stand Up right Now and remember that living is NOW not some distant belief of what the future holds. Enjoy the time you have each day and focus on living every moment to the fullest.

I was specifically asked to write an article that would be in itself a learning tool, a method of turning on the natural human empowerment that is within each of us. Here it is. Every time you read this article you reestablish a powerful pattern of personal focus on your self-esteem and self-control and the development of your inner strength as an understanding and empathetic person.

Every time you STAND UP you will remember THIS ARTICLE and these WORDS and you WILL be able to FOCUS on reestablishing your inner strength, self-esteem and self-control.

Do you REMEMBER this article yet? STAND UP and You WILL!

AJ Gentry, author of The Human Life Map: The Secret Path Of Life, and Human Excellence Technologies, has pioneered human behavioral research for more than three decades. He invites you to visit the The Human Life Map | The Secret Path Of Life Blog http://www.thesecretpathoflife.com/blog or Hu2 Q&A Blogcast http://blog.thesecretpathoflife.com as he shares knowledge from precursors like Living Dynamics and Success Dynamics.

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Sunday, March 30, 2008

Metaphors We Live By

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by Steve Gillman

What are the metaphors we live by? Is life a journey, a game, a dream, or a movie we are watching? How do these metaphorical perspectives affect our lives? Let's take a look at a few of them.

Life Is Purgatory

Some people see life as a sort of purgatory to be suffered through. In fact, many religions explicitly use this metaphor. Life is suffering, they claim, and by suffering virtuously, you get to go to some wonderful place afterwards. This idea shows up in other ways as well. Some people think it is normal to work at a job or jobs that they hate for most of their lives, in order to get the "reward" of retirement.

Life Is A Party

Now this is a more enjoyable metaphor. At least for a while. People who live by this metaphor, though, often end up bitter later in life. Partying to excess has its consequences, and a party has to be paid for by someone. Having no money for food and drink takes a lot of the fun out of a party.

Life Is A Movie

This is one of those metaphors we live by both consciously and unconsciously. People will sometimes say things like, "This is my big scene," or "Is this the part where..." followed by some movie reference. More often, people just unconsciously take the role of movie-goer in their own lives, feeling like they are watching a story directed by someone else.

In one sense, this perspective provides a more objective view that may keep a person from suffering too much. The next scene is on its way, after all, and there are always unexpected plot twists that can be good or bad. On the other hand, this perspective creates a sense of passivity. Maybe it would be a more useful metaphor for life if a person also saw himself as the writer, director and producer of the movie.

The Best Metaphors We Live By

What are the best metaphors for life? Many have their useful aspects. A "journey," "quest," or "path," would keep you looking for the better way in life, and perhaps motivate you to overcome any obstacles. A "story," might give your life meaning. The metaphor "adventure" could make you see life problems and challenges as interesting and exciting.

However, all metaphors are limiting too. For example, life may be more fun as a "game," but a game has winners and losers, and competition is the rule. This isn't always true in life, and a person would miss out on a lot if this was her ruling metaphor. Even "quests," or "journeys," have their problems. They don't allow much for the idea sitting still and enjoying just "being."

The metaphors we live by, then, should probably change continually, to get the best out of each, without being limited by it. See your life as a movie, for example, when times are tough, and consider the later scenes in which your problems are resolved. Then see your life as a game to be played when you need to make strategic life decisions. When it is time to learn life lessons and develop your spirituality, let your life be an "awakening."

After working in a casino for years, I found myself using that as a metaphor for life. There were players who put the odds in their favor and so won, just as in life. Those who played when the odds were against them (most players) lost money, and their occasional "wins" were just bait to keep them losing. This seemed to parallel life in general too. Of course the "house" or casino owners always won. There were certainly lessons here, as there often are in the metaphors we live by.

Copyright Steve Gillman. Learn more about The Metaphors We Live by right now at: http://www.Metaphorology.com

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Metaphors We Live By

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by Steve Gillman

What are the metaphors we live by? Is life a journey, a game, a dream, or a movie we are watching? How do these metaphorical perspectives affect our lives? Let's take a look at a few of them.

Life Is Purgatory

Some people see life as a sort of purgatory to be suffered through. In fact, many religions explicitly use this metaphor. Life is suffering, they claim, and by suffering virtuously, you get to go to some wonderful place afterwards. This idea shows up in other ways as well. Some people think it is normal to work at a job or jobs that they hate for most of their lives, in order to get the "reward" of retirement.

Life Is A Party

Now this is a more enjoyable metaphor. At least for a while. People who live by this metaphor, though, often end up bitter later in life. Partying to excess has its consequences, and a party has to be paid for by someone. Having no money for food and drink takes a lot of the fun out of a party.

Life Is A Movie

This is one of those metaphors we live by both consciously and unconsciously. People will sometimes say things like, "This is my big scene," or "Is this the part where..." followed by some movie reference. More often, people just unconsciously take the role of movie-goer in their own lives, feeling like they are watching a story directed by someone else.

In one sense, this perspective provides a more objective view that may keep a person from suffering too much. The next scene is on its way, after all, and there are always unexpected plot twists that can be good or bad. On the other hand, this perspective creates a sense of passivity. Maybe it would be a more useful metaphor for life if a person also saw himself as the writer, director and producer of the movie.

The Best Metaphors We Live By

What are the best metaphors for life? Many have their useful aspects. A "journey," "quest," or "path," would keep you looking for the better way in life, and perhaps motivate you to overcome any obstacles. A "story," might give your life meaning. The metaphor "adventure" could make you see life problems and challenges as interesting and exciting.

However, all metaphors are limiting too. For example, life may be more fun as a "game," but a game has winners and losers, and competition is the rule. This isn't always true in life, and a person would miss out on a lot if this was her ruling metaphor. Even "quests," or "journeys," have their problems. They don't allow much for the idea sitting still and enjoying just "being."

The metaphors we live by, then, should probably change continually, to get the best out of each, without being limited by it. See your life as a movie, for example, when times are tough, and consider the later scenes in which your problems are resolved. Then see your life as a game to be played when you need to make strategic life decisions. When it is time to learn life lessons and develop your spirituality, let your life be an "awakening."

After working in a casino for years, I found myself using that as a metaphor for life. There were players who put the odds in their favor and so won, just as in life. Those who played when the odds were against them (most players) lost money, and their occasional "wins" were just bait to keep them losing. This seemed to parallel life in general too. Of course the "house" or casino owners always won. There were certainly lessons here, as there often are in the metaphors we live by.

Copyright Steve Gillman. Learn more about The Metaphors We Live by right now at: http://www.Metaphorology.com

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Saturday, March 29, 2008

Opposites Can Attract Online

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by Terry Detty

When working with magnets you will quickly learn that polar opposites attract. This means that the negatively charged pole will be attracted to the positively charged pole and the two will connect together with very little user effort. The same rule applies with chemistry. Negatively charged particles will be attracted to positively charged particles. Why? Because the negatively charged particles have something that the positively charged particles want.

The same is true of people. Sometimes people who are very similar join together and live a happy existence; they enjoy the same music, have the same values and do the same activities on Friday nights. They have the same group of friends and attend the same church every Sunday morning.

Sometimes this is not the case and two people who are polar opposites are drawn together. Usually this is because one or the other of them has something that the other wants. A person who is generally very cynical and pessimistic may be drawn to someone with a sense of eternal optimism. An individual who has spent their whole life following the rules dictated by society for proper behavior may be drawn to a free spirit who is content to live their life the way that they see fit, regardless of the opinions of others.

Such matches at times may prove to be volatile, resulting in an explosion and the secondary damages that go along with it. Other times they may balance each other, as in the case of the positively and negatively charged electrons; the particles are neutralized when they are mixed together. These matches have long since stumped psychologists and others looking at these relationships from a purely subjective viewpoint. How can two people who have nothing in common form a strong, successful relationship? What they do not realize is that it is simply yet another example of nature's own selection principles at work.

Forming a relationship with someone who is your polar opposite is not always going to be easy, regardless of how well you complement each other. You are going to have different viewpoints on different issues and different lifestyles to boot. The most important factors in these types of relationships are patience and understanding. Remember that you knew they were very different from you when you chose to embark on this relationship; you cannot expect them to change now.

Before you choose to permanently commit to someone who is your opposite there are a few questions you are going to need to answer. What are their differences in the things that matter? (home, children, etc.) Can you be happy with these differences? If the answer to the second question is no it would be wise to take a step back from the relationship before committing to something that you cannot step back from. If, on the other hand, the answer is yes prepare to enjoy a lifetime that, while it will never be smooth, will certainly never be boring.

Terry Detty finds Richland County Free Online Dating Service and Sandusky County Free Online Dating Service his passion. In addition to marketing, he enjoys reading and occasionally goes out for a short walk. His latest interest is a new Stark County Free Online Dating Service he's been using.

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Friday, March 28, 2008

Memorial Services: Using Poems and Untraditional Methods to Remember Someone's Life

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by Ben Anton

Grieving a lost loved one is never easy. One of the best therapies for this grief is to honor their life and give them a memorial service. Most people don't think beyond the traditional memorial service. There are many alternative, or untraditional, memorial service options. These can range from simple memorial poems to elaborate funeral memorials. When searching for the perfect memorial for a loved one don't forget some of these other options.

Some people opt for the traditional memorial service at a funeral home or graveside. These can be enhanced by a nice memorial poem. Poems for lost loved ones can range from simple, emotion-filled lines to elaborate, flowing pieces with imagery and structure. These poems may be read at the service, posted online in honor of the lost loved one, shared with family, or simply kept with other mementos. The simple act of writing one's feelings has a very therapeutic effect and can help the healing process. Others may be having the same feelings and emotions and by reading the poem it may help them work along the grieving track.

The internet offers many other options, as well. Posting the obituary online or online funeral messages may help spread the word. Online memorials set up for a loved one can help to speed the healing. This offers the opportunity of celebrating their life. Posting their accomplishments and pictures will allow all those unable to make it to a service to grieve, also. A collage of photos, favorite quotes, favorite song clips, and even links to their favorite causes can fill this online memorial. This can be an evolving memorial. Allowing others to post their memories and special times with the lost will truly celebrate their life and honor them. Open it up and allow others to post favorite pictures or quotes from the person and watch as the memorial takes new shape and memories blossom.

Some people take this even farther and have an online funeral. This allows everyone to reach out and help each other heal. Those who are limited due to disability, geography, or other hurdles may attend an online funeral and share in the sadness and joy that may accompany a celebration of the loved one's life. Video feed from the actual funeral service can be placed online or fed live during the service. Others will feel as if they are right there and feel a part of the process. This allows everyone the opportunity to be involved with laying the person's soul to rest.

When deciding on how to remember a loved one the possibilities are endless. Imagination can go a long way when planning an untraditional memorial. A video showing clips and photos of the person with voice-overs from family and friends is a good option. Planning a celebration of the person's life centered on things they enjoyed can help everyone remember them as they were in life. A memorial service for an avid scuba diver might take place in a favorite dive spot, or even underwater. The memories, and tears, may flow freely but the cleansing nature will be helpful. Share joys and favorite times and honor them in a place where they found joy.

Another popular form of memorial for a loved one is to give to a charity or favorite cause in their name. Taking this theme a little further, some families have volunteered, as a group, to assist the cause. A trip to the local Red Cross Blood Donor Center in honor of a lost loved one who volunteered with Red Cross would make a great tribute to their accomplishments in life. Whether giving money or blood, this is a true memorial to a loved one.

Whether holding a traditional funeral service or an untraditional online memorial, the most important step after the death of a loved one is to start the healing process. This involves going through the grieving process and finding a way to honor and remember the person. If posting their history and memories to a public website does not feel right, make a special, password-protected site that only family can access. It becomes an intimate memorial but allows those separated by geography to share in the grieving, and healing, process. Remember, a memorial for a lost loved one can be a simple poem or an elaborate memorial service, but the most important factor is the celebration of their life and accomplishments.

~Ben Anton, 2007

Online Funeral Memorials - Remember your loved one in the virtual world on the Valley of Life web site. The website features a forum for asking questions, memorial and grief poems and grief information.

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Thursday, March 27, 2008

How Daily Rituals Can Help You Accomplish Your Goals

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by Bill Thomas

I recall listening to some audiotapes years ago by Anthony Robbins in which he talked about the daily 'Rituals' we all have and how we need to create positive rituals in our lives to help us achieve our goals. Rituals are nothing more than habits that we have acquired through the years, and we all have both positive and negative ones. The good thing is that we can create positive rituals in our lives and eliminate the negative ones. We can also use these rituals to improve our results in practically all areas of our daily life, including results in our businesses.

The philosopher said, "Rome wasn't built in a day", and it's the same when it comes to taking positive action to improve any aspect of your life. Instead of trying to do it all at once, work on one thing at a time. It will help to make an inventory of actions that you need to take. One of my favorite historical figures, Benjamin Franklin, once did a self inventory on himself and discovered that he had thirteen character traits that he needed to work on. Franklin was wise enough to realize that you can't take them on all at once and therefore setup a plan in which he focused on one thing at a time. Having made progress on one thing, he then moved on to the next. You can use the same method that Franklin used in creating a list of things that you need to do on a daily basis.

Once you have created your list, you then want to list them in order of priority. Franklin didn't try and tackle them all at once and neither should you. Focus on one thing that is most important to you at that moment, and work on that solely. For me, I wanted to start writing everyday, and although I've had some missteps along the way, for the most part I have been able to achieve this goal by doing some type of writing daily. You can use this method in other areas of your life as well. When I made my list, I decided that losing 25 pounds was an important goal for me. I decided that I was going to spend the next week focusing on actions that could help me move in the direction of accomplishing this goal. Over the next week, I focused on eating better, exercising daily, and other actions that eventually led to my success in losing the 25 pounds.

I've used the same technique to establish other habits such as daily flossing, establishing a reading pattern, playing my guitar, and many other things. The point is, your goal doesn't have to be anything earth shattering, just something that is important to YOU! Creating positive rituals is nothing more than establishing goals and focusing on them daily until they become a ritual. Once you have established a ritual for your goal, move on to the next. I would also suggest starting off with something small, and moving on to bigger things once you've established your more modest rituals. In this way, you build confidence that you can indeed accomplish your goals.

We all have things in our life that we would like to accomplish, and oftentimes fail simply for lack of a plan. Start using daily rituals to create habits that will improve your life and help you accomplish your various goals.

Bill Thomas is actively engaged in Internet Business pursuits. He also contributes articles on life, business and other topics. His current website is..Create Income from Home With Your Own Cash Generating...Internet Business

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Wednesday, March 26, 2008

One Hundred Paintings of Solitude

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by Sam Vaknin

Sergej Andreevski is one of Macedonia's foremost painters. I visited his studio in the outskirts of Skopje to avail myself of a rare opportunity: an open invitation by a practicing artist to enter his mind.

Sergej is an action painter in an age of for-hire artisanship, he is an expressionist, bucking the trends of modernism, abstract and otherwise. He splurges paint from his tubes all over the (usually largish) canvass and then dives into it, fingers and soul. He prefers green and blue.

Sergej is a very physical artist. He loves the texture of his colors (though not their smells). He is tall and imposing and likes his experiences raw and direct. But he rebels against the limitations of the physical and its intrusion on his spirit: he makes battle with his canvass, jabbing at it and piercing it, in a bid to extricate himself from its disciplining dimensions.

He paints with music in the background and tries to capture motion and magic by deploying naive but endearing techniques. His is a world of guts. He is a quasi-surrealist, though he rejects this label, any label. He is not a man of theory, but of daubed practice.

Sergej regards his art as an expression and a manifestation of what he calls his "instinct." He finds the need to verbalize the sources of his inspiration tedious, difficult, and superfluous. His sensa and his exposure to other countries and cultures should suffice to account for his work. He admits that mathematical precision and the balance of colors have a role in his art, but only as finishing touches, not as an integral part of the primary process of creation.

He is attuned to other people: their body language, their feelings, other intimate information he can glean. This is his raw material. His art is his reaction to the world, an emotive discharge. His paintings are, thus, emotional capsules, a visual internal biography, a landscape of interactions with himself.

Painting is Sergej's compulsion. The public is secondary. He doodles when he is not painting. When at work, he dissociates ("I cut them out"). Frequently, he has only vague memories of events outside his easel and of the intervening time. Sergej is cursed (or blessed) with synaesthesia: musical notes assume colors and shapes and have a profound effect on his mood.

He thinks of his paintings as triggers, not as messages. As far as he is concerned, the viewer is at liberty to disagree with the artist on what a work of art means or says: "art is not a language". What matters is that there is a reaction. Sergej is a great believer in art's power to refine and uplift even the coarsest, most vulgar man.

He brings into his art the spell of his homeland, Macedonia, steeped for hundreds of years of solitude in folktales and traditions, the mists of times, the cradle of legends and of superstitions. "Too much knowledge obstructs the artist." Artists need to work on their associations, not to be too erudite, Sergej concludes.

"I know of no 'new programme'. Only that art is forever manifesting itself in new forms, since there are forever new personalities-its essence can never alter, I believe. Perhaps I am wrong. But speaking for myself, I know that I have no programme, only the unaccountable longing to grasp what I see and feel, and to find the purest means of expression for it."

Karl Schmidt-Rottluff

The psychophysical problem is long standing and, probably, intractable.

We have a corporeal body. It is an entity subject to all the laws of physics. Yet, we experience ourselves, our internal lives, and external events in a manner which provokes us to postulate the existence of a corresponding, non-physical complement. This corresponding entity ostensibly incorporates a dimension of our being which, in principle, can never be tackled with the instruments and the formal logic of science.

A compromise was proposed long ago: the soul is nothing but our self awareness (introspection) or the way we experience ourselves. But this is a flawed solution because it assumes that the human experience is uniform, unequivocal and identical. It might well be so - but there is no methodologically rigorous way of proving it. We have no way to objectively ascertain that all of us experience pain in the same manner or that the pain that we experience is the same for all of us. This limitation on our knowledge prevails even when the causes of the sensation are carefully controlled and monitored.

A scientist might say that we can map and pinpoint the exact part of the brain which is responsible for pain. Moreover, science is even be able to demonstrate a monovalent relationship between a pattern of brain activity in situ and pain. In other words, the scientific claim is that patterns of brain activity ARE the pain itself.

Such an argument is, prima facie, inadmissible. The fact that two events coincide (even if they do so without fail) does not make them one and the same. The serial occurrence of two events does not make one of them the cause and the other the effect, as is well known ("correlation is not causation").

Similarly, the contemporaneous occurrence of two events only means that they are correlated. A correlate is not an alter ego. It is not an aspect of the same event. Activity in the brain appears WHEN pain happens, but it by no means follows that it IS the pain itself.

A stronger argument would crystallize if it were convincingly and repeatedly demonstrated that playing back these patterns of brain activity induces pain. Even so, we would be talking about cause and effect rather than an identity of pain and its correlate in the brain.

The gap is even bigger when we try to capture emotions and sensations by applying natural languages. This seems close to impossible. How can one even half accurately communicate one's anguish, love, fear, or desire? We are prisoners in the universe of our emotions, never to emerge and the weapons of language are useless. Each one of us develops his or her own, idiosyncratic, unique emotional language. It is not a jargon, or a dialect because it cannot be translated or communicated. No dictionary can ever be constructed to bridge this lingual gap.

In principle, experience is incommunicable. People - in the very far future - may be able to harbour the same emotions, chemically or otherwise induced in them. One brain could directly take over another and make it feel the same. Yet, even then these experiences will not be communicable and we will have no way available to us to compare and decide whether there was an identity of sensations or of emotions.

Still, when we say "sadness", we all seem to understand what we are talking about. In the remotest and furthest reaches of the globe, people share the feeling of being sad. It might be evoked by disparate circumstances - yet, we all seem to share some basic element of "being sad". What is this immutable kernel?

We have already said that we are confined to using idiosyncratic emotional languages and that they cannot be translated to other idiosyncratic emotional languages or otherwise communicated.

Let us postulate the existence of a meta language. This language is common to all humans. Indeed, it seems to be the language of being human. Emotions are statements in this language. This language must exist to make even the most rudimentary communication between humans possible.

It would appear that there must be a correlation between this universal language and our myriad idiosyncratic, individualistic languages.

Pain is correlated to brain activity, on the one hand and to this universal language, on the other. We would, therefore, tend to parsimoniously assume that the two correlates are but one and the same. In other words, it may well be that the brain activity which "goes together" with pain is merely the physical manifestation of the meta-lingual element "PAIN". We feel pain and this is our experience, unique, incommunicable, expressed solely in our idiosyncratic language.

We know that we are feeling pain and we communicate it to others. As we do so, we use the meta, universal language. The very use (or even the thought of using) this language provokes the kind of brain activity which is so closely correlated with pain.

It is important to clarify that this universal language could well be a physical, even a genetic one. Nature might have endowed us with it to improve our chances of survival. The communication of emotions is of an unparalleled evolutionary importance and a species devoid of the ability to communicate the existence of pain, for instance, would surely perish. Pain is our guardian against the perils of our surroundings.

To summarize: we manage our inter-human emotional communication using a universal language which is either physical or, at least, has strong physical correlates.

The function of bridging the gap between our idiosyncratic, private languages and a more universal one was relegated to a group of special individuals called artists. Theirs is the job to experience (mostly emotions) and to mould their experience into the grammar, syntax and vocabulary of a universal language in order to communicate to us the echo of their idiosyncratic language. They are forever mediating between us and their experience. Rightly so, the quality of an artist is measured by his ability to loyally represent his unique language to us. The smaller the distance between the original experience (the emotion of the artist) and its external representation, the more prominent the artist.

We declare artistic success when the universally communicable representation succeeds at recreating and evoking in us the original emotion (felt by the artist). It is very much like teleportation which allows, in sci-fi yarns, for the decomposition of the astronaut's body in one spot and its recreation, atom for atom in another.

Even if the artist fails to faithfully recreate his inner world, but succeeds in calling forth any kind of emotional response in his viewers/readers/listeners, he is deemed successful.

Every artist has a reference group, his audience. They could be alive or dead (for instance, he could measure himself against past artists). They could be few or many, but they must be present for art, in its fullest sense, to exist. Modern theories of art speak about the audience as an integral and defining part of artistic creation and even of the artefact itself.

But this, precisely, is the source of the dilemma of the artist:

Who is to determine who is a good, qualitative artist and who is not?

Put differently, who is to measure the distance between the original experience and its representation?

After all, if the original experience is an element of an idiosyncratic, non-communicable, language, we have no access to any information regarding it and, therefore, we are in no position to judge it. Only the artist has access to it and only he can decide how far is his representation from his original experience. Art criticism is impossible.

Granted, his reference group (his audience, however limited, whether among the living, or among the dead) has access to that meta language, that universal dictionary available to all humans. Still, no member of the audience has access to the artist's original experience and their capacity to pass judgement is, therefore, in great doubt.

On the other hand, only the reference group, only the audience can aptly judge the representation for what it is. The artist is too emotionally involved. True, the cold, objective facts concerning the work of art are available to both artist and reference group, but the audience is in a privileged status, its bias is less pronounced.

Normally, the reference group will use the meta language embedded in us as humans and a modicum of empathy to try to vaguely compare their emotions to his, to try to grasp the emotional foundation laid by the artist. But this is very much like substituting pornography for real sex. Talking about emotions - let alone making assumptions about what the artist may have felt that we also, perhaps, share - is a far cry from what really transpired in the artist's mind.

We are faced with a dichotomy:

The epistemological elements in the artistic process belong exclusively and incommunicably to the artist.

The ontological aspects of the artistic process are observable by the group of reference but they have no access to the epistemological domain.

And the work of art can be judged only by comparing the epistemological to the ontological.

Nor the artist, neither his group of reference can do it. This mission is nigh impossible.

Thus, an artist must make a decision early on in his career:

Should he remain loyal and close to his emotional experiences and studies and forgo the warmth and comfort of being reassured and directed from the outside, through the reactions of the reference group, or should he consider the views, criticism and advice of the reference group in his artistic creation and, most probably, have to compromise the quality and the intensity of his original emotion in order to be more communicative.

I wish to thank my brother, Sharon Vaknin, a gifted painter and illustrator, for raising these issues.

ADDENDUM - Art as Self-Mutilation

The internalized anger of Jesus - leading to his suicidal pattern of behaviour - pertained to all of Mankind. His sacrifice "benefited" humanity as a whole.

A self-mutilator, in comparison, appears to be "selfish". His anger is autistic, self-contained, self-referential and, therefore, "meaningless" as far as we are concerned. His catharsis is a private language.

But what people fail to understand is that art itself is an act of self mutilation, the etching of ephemeral pain into a lasting medium, the ultimate private language.

They also ignore, at their peril, the fact that only a very thin line separates self-mutilation - whether altruistic (Jesus) or "egoistic" - and the mutilation of others (serial killers, Hitler).

Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Central Europe Review, Global Politician, PopMatters, eBookWeb , and Bellaonline, and as a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent. He was the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101. Visit Sam's Web site at http://samvak.tripod.com

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Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Coaching – Where Is Your Focus?

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Most people don't begin the process of developing a business if they have no intent of establishing the business. Most people also believe there are different roads that lead to success. Is this true? Or are there just a variety of perspectives along the way?

Sometimes I think there is a common misperception about developing a business. This misperception seems to be that all roads lead to business success. This idea seems to take into account the notion that a business owner can simply pick and choose what they want to do, how they want to do it and when they want to do it.

By observation this almost seems possible.

The truth is every business starts at a definite place in time. It could be after many years of mulling the idea around, it could be after the loss of a traditional job and options are few or it could be following a presentation from someone who is already a business owner.

Not only is there a definite starting place, there is an end goal – the establishment of a business. Most people don't begin the process of developing a business if they have no intent of establishing the business.

Essentially there is but one road between that starting point and the finish line. I can hear the doubters among you saying, "Then why is everyone's experience a little different?"

The answer to that question has to do with where they have their eyes focused. For instance many entrepreneurs are long-range thinkers so their view is as far down that road as they can see. Some like to plan ahead, but are somewhat reserved so their eyes are ahead a few yards and their gaze shifts back and forth looking for potholes. Still others take things one step at a time so their view is in the location where they intend to step next. These individuals do not like surprised and want to assure themselves that all difficulties are dealt with immediately.

In the end it's the same road, but the perspective on how a potential business owner gets from Point A t Point B is quite different. So, when you listen to experts talk about the road to success you have to understand that each expert will have a different view of the road and not all their experiences will seem to match up.

To test this theory take a walk with family or friends tonight ask one to keep their eyes resolutely ahead, another should only look a few yards ahead and a third should watch every step.

From one you might hear about a deer that crossed a hundred yards down the path. From another you might hear of a stray branch that they almost tripped over and the third might describe some of the insects encountered along the trail

Same trail – different perspective.

We all start in the same place, we hope to end up in the same place, but we always choose our view of the road every business owner must travel.

Scott Lindsay is a web developer and entrepreneur. He is the founder of HighPowerSites and many other web projects. Get your own website online in just 5 minutes with HighPowerSites at: http://www.highpowersites.com. Start your own ebook business with BooksWealth at: http://www.bookswealth.com

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Monday, March 24, 2008

How to Conquer Adult Goals with Child-like Behavior

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by Ronnie Nijmeh

Remember when you were a child, and you received your first bicycle? Oh, how excited you were to climb on it and ride it as far as you could go, pedaling as hard as you possibly could, and showing all of your friends and schoolmates the shiny new love of your life! It didn't matter that you didn't know how to ride it immediately or that you did not own proper safety equipment. Your entire goal was to get on top of that bike and race the wind down the street. Sometimes, having just the burning desire is enough to motivate you to seek out the know-how and to practice riding until you are able do it all by yourself.

That burning desire, or passion, is an overwhelming emotion. It is that boundless enthusiasm we need to help us finish a task, begin a new project, conquer a fear, or to overcome a bad habit or addiction. It is the siren, or bugle, which leads us into battle.

If we can gather and preserve that childlike passion, we can accomplish anything. We can jump on that bike and start pedaling, and as we build the confidence and momentum, we can remove the training wheels and tackle the art of riding a bicycle. And by the turn of the next bend, we are riding that bike downhill towards the horizon with the wind behind us - without apprehension, concerns, or hindrances.

Although passion is a great motivator, it is often difficult to find and even harder to maintain. A good way of cultivating passion and retaining it in our sights is to seek out inspirational words and images. One powerful solution comes from free wallpapers with inspirational quotes. These vivid pictures with phenomenal, moving quotes can be the exact recharge we need for reviving passion and keeping it onboard. Furthermore, free inspirational desktop backgrounds can be a part of any workspace. Not only are these backgrounds pleasant to look at, but these free wallpapers with inspirational quotes are also excellent to share with family, friends, and team members.

We can all learn to jolt our heart's desires back to life. Just like that child on the bicycle revving to go, we can allow a supercharged passion to ignite us into action and launch us towards our target. And by implementing a little inspiration to our daily routine, to keep our passions fed, we can reach our scope and beyond.

Getting in touch with our inner child doesn't mean that we haven't grown as individuals. As adults, we sometimes forget the simplicity of life, and we lose focus on occasion. We usually ponder about how we can get things done and stop at that. Passion can get us back on that bicycle seat and remind us of what we are striving for and why. It is the fuse to our powder keg of abilities, ideas, hopes, and dreams, and we should employ our passion to ask the necessary questions for us.

The next time we are confronted with a challenge, we should think back to our first days on a bicycle and hone in on that child-like fervor. We should all lean our heads back into the wind with our arms stretched out beside us and enjoy the ride. How we get there will become less important.

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Sunday, March 23, 2008

Metaphors We Live By

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by Steve Gillman

What are the metaphors we live by? Is life a journey, a game, a dream, or a movie we are watching? How do these metaphorical perspectives affect our lives? Let's take a look at a few of them.

Life Is Purgatory

Some people see life as a sort of purgatory to be suffered through. In fact, many religions explicitly use this metaphor. Life is suffering, they claim, and by suffering virtuously, you get to go to some wonderful place afterwards. This idea shows up in other ways as well. Some people think it is normal to work at a job or jobs that they hate for most of their lives, in order to get the "reward" of retirement.

Life Is A Party

Now this is a more enjoyable metaphor. At least for a while. People who live by this metaphor, though, often end up bitter later in life. Partying to excess has its consequences, and a party has to be paid for by someone. Having no money for food and drink takes a lot of the fun out of a party.

Life Is A Movie

This is one of those metaphors we live by both consciously and unconsciously. People will sometimes say things like, "This is my big scene," or "Is this the part where..." followed by some movie reference. More often, people just unconsciously take the role of movie-goer in their own lives, feeling like they are watching a story directed by someone else.

In one sense, this perspective provides a more objective view that may keep a person from suffering too much. The next scene is on its way, after all, and there are always unexpected plot twists that can be good or bad. On the other hand, this perspective creates a sense of passivity. Maybe it would be a more useful metaphor for life if a person also saw himself as the writer, director and producer of the movie.

The Best Metaphors We Live By

What are the best metaphors for life? Many have their useful aspects. A "journey," "quest," or "path," would keep you looking for the better way in life, and perhaps motivate you to overcome any obstacles. A "story," might give your life meaning. The metaphor "adventure" could make you see life problems and challenges as interesting and exciting.

However, all metaphors are limiting too. For example, life may be more fun as a "game," but a game has winners and losers, and competition is the rule. This isn't always true in life, and a person would miss out on a lot if this was her ruling metaphor. Even "quests," or "journeys," have their problems. They don't allow much for the idea sitting still and enjoying just "being."

The metaphors we live by, then, should probably change continually, to get the best out of each, without being limited by it. See your life as a movie, for example, when times are tough, and consider the later scenes in which your problems are resolved. Then see your life as a game to be played when you need to make strategic life decisions. When it is time to learn life lessons and develop your spirituality, let your life be an "awakening."

After working in a casino for years, I found myself using that as a metaphor for life. There were players who put the odds in their favor and so won, just as in life. Those who played when the odds were against them (most players) lost money, and their occasional "wins" were just bait to keep them losing. This seemed to parallel life in general too. Of course the "house" or casino owners always won. There were certainly lessons here, as there often are in the metaphors we live by.

Copyright Steve Gillman. Learn more about The Metaphors We Live by right now at: http://www.Metaphorology.com

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Friday, March 21, 2008

Memorial Services: Using Poems and Untraditional Methods to Remember Someone's Life

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by Ben Anton

Grieving a lost loved one is never easy. One of the best therapies for this grief is to honor their life and give them a memorial service. Most people don't think beyond the traditional memorial service. There are many alternative, or untraditional, memorial service options. These can range from simple memorial poems to elaborate funeral memorials. When searching for the perfect memorial for a loved one don't forget some of these other options.

Some people opt for the traditional memorial service at a funeral home or graveside. These can be enhanced by a nice memorial poem. Poems for lost loved ones can range from simple, emotion-filled lines to elaborate, flowing pieces with imagery and structure. These poems may be read at the service, posted online in honor of the lost loved one, shared with family, or simply kept with other mementos. The simple act of writing one's feelings has a very therapeutic effect and can help the healing process. Others may be having the same feelings and emotions and by reading the poem it may help them work along the grieving track.

The internet offers many other options, as well. Posting the obituary online or online funeral messages may help spread the word. Online memorials set up for a loved one can help to speed the healing. This offers the opportunity of celebrating their life. Posting their accomplishments and pictures will allow all those unable to make it to a service to grieve, also. A collage of photos, favorite quotes, favorite song clips, and even links to their favorite causes can fill this online memorial. This can be an evolving memorial. Allowing others to post their memories and special times with the lost will truly celebrate their life and honor them. Open it up and allow others to post favorite pictures or quotes from the person and watch as the memorial takes new shape and memories blossom.

Some people take this even farther and have an online funeral. This allows everyone to reach out and help each other heal. Those who are limited due to disability, geography, or other hurdles may attend an online funeral and share in the sadness and joy that may accompany a celebration of the loved one's life. Video feed from the actual funeral service can be placed online or fed live during the service. Others will feel as if they are right there and feel a part of the process. This allows everyone the opportunity to be involved with laying the person's soul to rest.

When deciding on how to remember a loved one the possibilities are endless. Imagination can go a long way when planning an untraditional memorial. A video showing clips and photos of the person with voice-overs from family and friends is a good option. Planning a celebration of the person's life centered on things they enjoyed can help everyone remember them as they were in life. A memorial service for an avid scuba diver might take place in a favorite dive spot, or even underwater. The memories, and tears, may flow freely but the cleansing nature will be helpful. Share joys and favorite times and honor them in a place where they found joy.

Another popular form of memorial for a loved one is to give to a charity or favorite cause in their name. Taking this theme a little further, some families have volunteered, as a group, to assist the cause. A trip to the local Red Cross Blood Donor Center in honor of a lost loved one who volunteered with Red Cross would make a great tribute to their accomplishments in life. Whether giving money or blood, this is a true memorial to a loved one.

Whether holding a traditional funeral service or an untraditional online memorial, the most important step after the death of a loved one is to start the healing process. This involves going through the grieving process and finding a way to honor and remember the person. If posting their history and memories to a public website does not feel right, make a special, password-protected site that only family can access. It becomes an intimate memorial but allows those separated by geography to share in the grieving, and healing, process. Remember, a memorial for a lost loved one can be a simple poem or an elaborate memorial service, but the most important factor is the celebration of their life and accomplishments.

~Ben Anton, 2007

Online Funeral Memorials - Remember your loved one in the virtual world on the Valley of Life web site. The website features a forum for asking questions, memorial and grief poems and grief information.

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Thursday, March 20, 2008

You Deserve a Life of Fulfillment and Abundance

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by Linda Webster

Does life have to be full of ups and downs, highs and lows? Do we have to get in these places where we feel stuck? Do we have to just repeat the same mistakes over and over? Actually we don't. I wish I could have known years ago what I know now. I've been to all those places mentioned above to varying degrees. Very slowly, I have brought myself to a place where I am no longer depressed. I know how to live in a place of peace, to feel a deep connectedness to others, to feel the joy within rise up filling my whole being.

If someone had told me twenty years ago I would feel like this I probably would not have even know what they were talking about. I was that far away. It is wonderful now to be able to coach others to help them get by, or around some of these life events. One of my clients is in his 70's and is going through major life changes. There is not much support out there for him and many others his age. To often, our culture just doesn't want to deal with our elders. To bad, cause they have so much to offer and contribute.

A coach can help look at beliefs that are not useful to us; that are in fact keeping us stuck and repeating the same old patterns of behavior over and over. Relationships are a good examples of how we repeat the same mistakes. By looking at our behavoir and the beliefs underlying them, we can begin to make shifts. It is an amazing feeling to go beyond these limiting beliefs. It is the feeling of emerging into a new and brilliant place of expansion. Our western culture is based on many old Christian beliefs and values that really don't serve any purpose now, accept to limit us. One example of this is money. Most of us have some pretty deep rooted beliefs about money. Maybe that we don't deserve it, or that there is something wrong with people who have a lot of money. How many times have you heard "they got rich by being very selfish?" I heard so many of these lines when I was a kid. I'm sure we can all make quite a list. When we hold these beliefs they limit us terribly. A lot of the time we don't even realize how much they are affecting the way we think. Beliefs keep us from reaching our full potential and finding lasting happiness.

We all deserve to live a fulfilling, abundant life, but it means doing the inner work to get there. I support and encourage my clients to make the changes necessary to move to place in life where they want to be. We work on looking at the limitations that keep them from achieving what they want: their passions and their dreams.

Linda Webster is a Personal Life Coach. She works with people from all walks of life, at all ages. She believes in a wholeness appoach to bring health to all levels of her clients lives. www.creativeinneraction.com

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Wednesday, March 19, 2008

6 Essential Goal Setting Tips

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by Kale Jones

If you want to accomplish anything in life, setting goals is going to be the first step. From losing weight to career success to making a business profitable, life is really all about having the right goals.

Unfortunately many people are not setting goals for themselves in their life, which explains why so many people never achieve their true potential. Actually, one of the main reasons that people are not setting goals today is that they really don't even know where to begin. So, if you are ready to start learning how to set goals, here are six essential tips to keep in mind.

Tip #1 - Start Dreaming and Write Down Your Dreams - First of all, if you want to set goals you are going to have to take the time to do some dreaming. If you have no dreams, then it will be difficult to come up with goals for your life.

Sadly many people have actually lost the ability to dream in their life and subsequently their motivation for achievement. So, to get yourself started, take some time to dream about things you want to do, who you would like to be, or even about what you would like to have. Once you come up with your dreams then actually put those dreams down on paper.

Tip #2 - Ask the Question, 'Why?' - After you have come up with your list of dreams, then you need to wait a bit and take another look at all the dreams on your list. As you look over those dreams, ask yourself why this dream is important to you.

If you can't even come up with a good reason to have this dream or a few sentences to describe why this is important to you, then it probably is not even a dream and it definitely will not become a goal. So, if you can't answer the question for a specific dream, you'll probably want to cross it off your list.

Tip #3 - Is it really YOUR Goal? - Sadly many people actually have dreams that were placed there by other people. This is why it is so important to figure out whether it is really your goal or a goal that someone else in your life wants you to go after. When working on setting goals, if the dream and goal is not really yours, then it can be crossed off your list.

Tip #4 - Figure out How the Goal Will Affect Your Life - You are on the right track now. The dreams you have left on your list now need to be reviewed. This time you need to determine how these dreams are going to affect your life. When you accomplish these goals are they going to make you more happy than what you are now?

Are these goals going to cause an improvement in the relationships you currently have with people? Will they cause an improvement in security with these people? Is it going to have a positive outcome on your financial affairs? If the answer is no they won't them cross those goals off your list because if you know the outcome of that goal isn't going to make a positive reaction in your life then it's going to be hard to stay motivated to accomplish it.

Tip #5 - Categorize Your Goals - By now your list should be narrowed down to real goals, instead of just desires and thoughts. At this point you need to categorize your goals into sections, depending on how long it should take you to reach them.

You will have long range goals that will take more than a year to achieve, short range goals that should take less than a month for you to achieve, and intermediate goals that will take anywhere from a month to a year to achieve. Remember, you should have big goals, and you should also make sure to have goals in every category so you are constantly working towards goals in your life.

Tip #6 - Plan How You Will Achieve Your Goals - After you've established what your goals are, you need to plan how you will achieve them. You should always be working toward your goals, even if it's simply taking small steps in the right direction. Be sure not to overwhelm yourself when trying to reach those goals.

It will take some time management and motivation on your part to plan and complete these tasks, but it will be worth it. Create a chart with the activities you plan to do to help you achieve your goals, and as you perform those activities mark them down on your chart. This will help you see the achievements you are making as you get closer and closer to achieving your goals.

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Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Relaxation Techniques to Combat Stress

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by Melita Miller

With the increased pressures of modern life more and more people find it difficult to switch off and relax at the end of the day. This can lead to sleepless nights which creates further anxiety that can make life feel more unbearable.

Eventually this can create a feeling of being overwhelmed or stressed out. However, there are lifestyle changes that you can make in order to reduce your stress and promote relaxation in your life:

1) Get regular massages
We all know about the reputed benefits of a massage in aiding relaxation of the body and mind. Whilst you could get a partner or close friend to give your shoulders, back or feet a good rub down, to truly feel long-term benefits you should enlist the services of a trained professional to give you regular massages.

Don't think of this as an indulgent treat but rather an essential part of your well-being routine. For as well as relaxing the muscles (and making you feel as chilled out as an Eskimo), the benefits of regular massage include improved blood flow and a boosted immune system.

2) Hang up your phone
When you leave the office you need to be able to switch off from work - and that includes your phone! This is important to do as once your work colleagues get into the habit of being able to contact you at all hours they will. Remember, the phone is there for your convenience, not just the caller's.

3) Compile some chillout tunes
Put together or buy a CD of relaxing music to ease your mind and help you switch off from the outside world. Research has shown that even from the womb relaxing/classical music can be beneficial in promoting well-being.

4) Read a good book
Emily Dickinson wrote, " There is not frigate like a book to take us lands away," which is a great way to sum up the way in which reading a good book can help you to get your mind off your worries - if only for a while. Click here for a wide choice of great books to read

5) Practice yoga
Yoga is a great way to escape from everything going on around by taking you into your own little world. As well as being a good form of working out, it can help you to build your self esteem and confidence, helping you to bring about a positive change in your life.

6) Drink herbal teas
Herbals teas such as peppermint and chamomile make better options than caffeine-infused drinks such as tea and coffee. The key to helping you to adapt your choice is to try different types until you find flavours which suit you taste buds. Many varieties are now widely supplied at most supermarkets.

7) Eat Right
All too often, and perhaps because of the hype of all the fad diets out there, people underestimate the impact of diet on our health and well-being. Simple steps such as cutting down on caffeine, alcohol and food high in fat or calories can produce beneficial effects such as helping you to feel healthier and less highly strung out or irritable.

8) Work Out
Now we're not talking about hours every day or "going for the burn." If you haven't exercised for a while you will want to take it easy and start off with manageable sessions. As well as the physical benefits of exercise, regular sessions can help to reduce your anxiety levels as "feel good" hormones are released.

9) Breathe
It's just like they say when you have a moment in which you feel you're going to have a meltdown. Take a deep breath and count to ten. Whilst this is a good start, you should aim to set aside time to sit down relax and focus on your breathing to the point that it slows down and feel more in control.

10) Get back to basics
Escape the hustle and bustle of your everyday stresses and strains by getting out to the countryside or a place close to nature. This can often provide the space you need to clear your mind, find focus and perhaps inspiration.

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Monday, March 17, 2008

Action Is The Bridge Between Knowledge And Results

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Have you ever wondered why so many people are overweight when there are hundreds of diets and thousands of books on how to be healthy? Why so many people are unhappy in their relationships when there is more information available today on how to create loving, lasting relationships than ever before? Why so many people struggle with debt when there are known, timeless principles for financial prosperity?

The truth of the matter is we all want to be healthier, in loving relationships and financially independent. So why is it that so many of us are not? The answer is so simple it will surprise you; because we are programmed and conditioned to do just enough to survive, to just get by, to just make it this week or this month. The results in a person's life are always a mirror reflection of their programming, thoughts, feelings and actions.

You see where you are today in life is a sum of all the choices that you have made up until this point. They may be what you wanted or may be just what you settled for. If you are happy with where you are today in your life, than that is wonderful. If you are not, allow me to share my thoughts with you which may make you look at tomorrow and the future very differently.

In Life Everything Is Energy

We can look around us and talk about things on many different levels; however they all boil down to one thing and one thing only: energy. Let's use your body as an example. First we can look at your body as a whole, the person who's name is you. But you are not really you. You are actually made up of many different organ systems, each with a very specific role and all working together to keep you going. All these systems are contained together with a skeleton and skin.

Another level deeper all those organ systems are simply an active grouping of organs. Each organ is a living breathing colony of cells. Cells are composed of molecules which are themselves made of atoms. Then you have electrons, protons, and neutrons. After that there is only one thing left and that is energy. No matter what you look at in life, it is energy at its inner most core.

You see, to begin understanding life one must continuously learn more about energy. Please allow me to help you understand this concept better.

We all start out in life with an identical physical body. Our physical body is merely a shell, a holder for our energy essence. Our body has three main functions. The first is to collect data through the five physical senses and convert that data into energy, either raising or lowering the vibration of our collective energy. The second is to allow us to function in the physical world, to walk, to eat, to breathe and so on. The third is to reproduce thus creating more shells for even more energy to become a part of life. An ever growing, upward spiral if you would.

When we are born our bodies can be likened to empty glasses which are slowly filled with energy over the years as we go about collecting data through our five senses in the progression of life. In the beginning we do not have control of what energy goes into our empty glass. Call it life, call it fate, whatever it is we each start out dependent upon our parents and how ever they choose to raise us in the beginning years. We do not pick the country, the culture or the household we are born in. We may not agree or be happy with everything that we go through in our early years but it will be a part of us for the rest of our lives whether we like it or not.

We Can Choose Differently

This is where I would like to make a crucial point. We don't have to keep going on the same road that we have been on up until now. We can choose differently and align our life with WHAT WE REALLY WANT instead of doing what our parents, our society and the world expects us to do. Most of us will make this decision somewhere around 15-25 years of age as we begin to start defining life in our own vocabulary. For some it will be sooner, for others even later and for some, never.

Our parents, schooling and society programs us how to think. They tell us what is acceptable and what is not. Most people simply choose to live with this programming and pass it on to their children unconsciously. Simply speaking, if we are happy with the results in our life then all is well and fine. However, if we feel that we can be so much more than who we are and live a happier, more prosperous life, the answer is YES and the starting point is to begin to create a burning desire for our deepest wishes.

Ask yourself why do you want to lose 40 lbs? Why do you want to be healthier? What does a happy relationship look like for you? Are you doing your part in creating one or are expecting your partner to carry the entire load? Why do you want to earn extra money and what will you do with it when you earn it? It is - when you ask and answer questions like these - that you will begin to create the desire essential for the fulfillment of your wishes.

An Important Technique

One of the most important techniques one can utilize to begin manifesting their dreams is to write them down on paper. Thoughts are simply energy. They are on a different level or dimension than the physical world we live in. When a person takes their thoughts and writes them down those thoughts now become a part of the physical world. Just by writing a thought down whether it is a goal or an item on the to-do list we are already half way there in achieving it.

When you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep look at your list of desires. Read them out loud and as you do place your right hand on your heart. Feel good about yourself and picture yourself in your mind as already having achieved what you want to create in your life.

T. Harv Eker, the famous author and owner of Peak Potentials Training puts it this way:

P -> T -> F -> A = R

(P) Programming or conditioning of how we are raised leads to our (T) Thoughts and the way we think. Our thoughts lead to our (F) Feelings and how we feel about ourselves, which in turn lead us to take (A) Actions. Simply put our actions are rooted in our programming, thoughts and feelings. Our actions create our (R) Results.

One of the guaranteed ways for a person to create desired results in their life is to model others who have already created what one is looking to achieve. It is when we look at those who are already successful in the areas in which we are seeking to improve we realize something very special. The happy, prosperous and rich people all have certain traits, certain ways of living and going about life which set them apart from the rest. They all possess a deep, burning desire to be successful and are willing to take sustained, lasting action. We can learn from all the rich and happy that success and happiness are simply an acquired state of mind.

Final Thought
In conclusion the most certain way to go about creating results in life is to begin to program and condition yourself for success. This will lead to the thoughts and feeling which will serve as fuel for the actions which you need to perform in order to manifest your results. You can begin to reprogram your beliefs and conditioning in countless ways.

A great beginning is to read some of the all time success and achievement classics, such as "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie and "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale. Another way is to associate yourself with positive people who choose an uplifting outlook on life and believe in themselves and their ability to create results.

In your race to the finish line you are your only hurdle. Learn to overcome yourself since nothing on the outside can ever stop you. I wish you all the best on your ongoing journey to lasting happiness and success.

Imran Rahman is a young entrepreneur, inspirational speaker, and author living in Tampa, FL. His deepest passion in life is to share the exact science of creating results and achieving dreams. He currently writes for Dream Manifesto weekly on success, finances, and relationships.

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Sunday, March 16, 2008

Get Organized via the Art of Looking

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by alan dean

If one of your goals is to become more organized, develop the art of looking, a very simple habit which will produce a less cluttered environment.

Like most people, you probably haven't taken a good look at your stuff in a long time. Most of us don't really look at an item once it's out of the package and on a shelf, in a drawer, or on the wall. It simply fades into the background. Items may be added, but existing items are rarely evaluated to determine if they are worth keeping. Over time, clutter builds. One day you look around and realize that you are literally surrounded by things you no longer like, need, or use.

The art of looking means to really focus on one item individually as if seeing it for the first time. Do I still like this item? Am I currently using or enjoying it? The goal is to surround yourself only with things that will make spaces in the home and office more peaceful and productive.

It sounds easy to accomplish, yet it seldom gets done. It takes effort at first, but making the art of looking a habit will save time and reduce stress. Start small. Really look at the knick-knacks on your desk or a shelf. Do they still reflect current interests? A few cherished items are better than a bunch of "just okays."
Take five minutes to look at a your sock drawer; remove a few pairs. When searching the kitchen cabinet for something, toss the expired crackers and donate the cans of soup you never eat.

Receive a new jacket for Christmas? Open your coat closet and look. Donate the old raincoat to a favorite charity. Purchase new books? Pull out titles that probably won't get read or are no longer interesting. Slowly, over time, take a good look at each part of each room of your home or office. Instead of wondering whether to keep an item, ask whether you enjoy or use it. Don't make this new habit a big project; just get started. Habits take time to develop.

There may be quite a few things that no longer reflect your current interests or who you are. That's normal. Say goodbye to those items and make room for the things you love and use. Trust me, most of what is let go won't be missed.

Start every year with a cleaner slate. Create a new habit of looking and enjoy less cluttered and more peaceful spaces.

Alan writes for a homes for rent service and is assisting Renee who is a Las Vegas professional organizer at www.get-it-together-llc.com. -adc

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Saturday, March 15, 2008

Action Is The Bridge Between Knowledge And Results

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Have you ever wondered why so many people are overweight when there are hundreds of diets and thousands of books on how to be healthy? Why so many people are unhappy in their relationships when there is more information available today on how to create loving, lasting relationships than ever before? Why so many people struggle with debt when there are known, timeless principles for financial prosperity?

The truth of the matter is we all want to be healthier, in loving relationships and financially independent. So why is it that so many of us are not? The answer is so simple it will surprise you; because we are programmed and conditioned to do just enough to survive, to just get by, to just make it this week or this month. The results in a person's life are always a mirror reflection of their programming, thoughts, feelings and actions.

You see where you are today in life is a sum of all the choices that you have made up until this point. They may be what you wanted or may be just what you settled for. If you are happy with where you are today in your life, than that is wonderful. If you are not, allow me to share my thoughts with you which may make you look at tomorrow and the future very differently.

In Life Everything Is Energy

We can look around us and talk about things on many different levels; however they all boil down to one thing and one thing only: energy. Let's use your body as an example. First we can look at your body as a whole, the person who's name is you. But you are not really you. You are actually made up of many different organ systems, each with a very specific role and all working together to keep you going. All these systems are contained together with a skeleton and skin.

Another level deeper all those organ systems are simply an active grouping of organs. Each organ is a living breathing colony of cells. Cells are composed of molecules which are themselves made of atoms. Then you have electrons, protons, and neutrons. After that there is only one thing left and that is energy. No matter what you look at in life, it is energy at its inner most core.

You see, to begin understanding life one must continuously learn more about energy. Please allow me to help you understand this concept better.

We all start out in life with an identical physical body. Our physical body is merely a shell, a holder for our energy essence. Our body has three main functions. The first is to collect data through the five physical senses and convert that data into energy, either raising or lowering the vibration of our collective energy. The second is to allow us to function in the physical world, to walk, to eat, to breathe and so on. The third is to reproduce thus creating more shells for even more energy to become a part of life. An ever growing, upward spiral if you would.

When we are born our bodies can be likened to empty glasses which are slowly filled with energy over the years as we go about collecting data through our five senses in the progression of life. In the beginning we do not have control of what energy goes into our empty glass. Call it life, call it fate, whatever it is we each start out dependent upon our parents and how ever they choose to raise us in the beginning years. We do not pick the country, the culture or the household we are born in. We may not agree or be happy with everything that we go through in our early years but it will be a part of us for the rest of our lives whether we like it or not.

We Can Choose Differently

This is where I would like to make a crucial point. We don't have to keep going on the same road that we have been on up until now. We can choose differently and align our life with WHAT WE REALLY WANT instead of doing what our parents, our society and the world expects us to do. Most of us will make this decision somewhere around 15-25 years of age as we begin to start defining life in our own vocabulary. For some it will be sooner, for others even later and for some, never.

Our parents, schooling and society programs us how to think. They tell us what is acceptable and what is not. Most people simply choose to live with this programming and pass it on to their children unconsciously. Simply speaking, if we are happy with the results in our life then all is well and fine. However, if we feel that we can be so much more than who we are and live a happier, more prosperous life, the answer is YES and the starting point is to begin to create a burning desire for our deepest wishes.

Ask yourself why do you want to lose 40 lbs? Why do you want to be healthier? What does a happy relationship look like for you? Are you doing your part in creating one or are expecting your partner to carry the entire load? Why do you want to earn extra money and what will you do with it when you earn it? It is - when you ask and answer questions like these - that you will begin to create the desire essential for the fulfillment of your wishes.

An Important Technique

One of the most important techniques one can utilize to begin manifesting their dreams is to write them down on paper. Thoughts are simply energy. They are on a different level or dimension than the physical world we live in. When a person takes their thoughts and writes them down those thoughts now become a part of the physical world. Just by writing a thought down whether it is a goal or an item on the to-do list we are already half way there in achieving it.

When you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep look at your list of desires. Read them out loud and as you do place your right hand on your heart. Feel good about yourself and picture yourself in your mind as already having achieved what you want to create in your life.

T. Harv Eker, the famous author and owner of Peak Potentials Training puts it this way:

P -> T -> F -> A = R

(P) Programming or conditioning of how we are raised leads to our (T) Thoughts and the way we think. Our thoughts lead to our (F) Feelings and how we feel about ourselves, which in turn lead us to take (A) Actions. Simply put our actions are rooted in our programming, thoughts and feelings. Our actions create our (R) Results.

One of the guaranteed ways for a person to create desired results in their life is to model others who have already created what one is looking to achieve. It is when we look at those who are already successful in the areas in which we are seeking to improve we realize something very special. The happy, prosperous and rich people all have certain traits, certain ways of living and going about life which set them apart from the rest. They all possess a deep, burning desire to be successful and are willing to take sustained, lasting action. We can learn from all the rich and happy that success and happiness are simply an acquired state of mind.

Final Thought
In conclusion the most certain way to go about creating results in life is to begin to program and condition yourself for success. This will lead to the thoughts and feeling which will serve as fuel for the actions which you need to perform in order to manifest your results. You can begin to reprogram your beliefs and conditioning in countless ways.

A great beginning is to read some of the all time success and achievement classics, such as "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie and "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale. Another way is to associate yourself with positive people who choose an uplifting outlook on life and believe in themselves and their ability to create results.

In your race to the finish line you are your only hurdle. Learn to overcome yourself since nothing on the outside can ever stop you. I wish you all the best on your ongoing journey to lasting happiness and success.

Imran Rahman is a young entrepreneur, inspirational speaker, and author living in Tampa, FL. His deepest passion in life is to share the exact science of creating results and achieving dreams. He currently writes for Dream Manifesto weekly on success, finances, and relationships.

Don't forget to download Indocquent's free social bookmark utility at http://www.indocquent.com/social_bookmark/social_bookmark_landingpage.html.